Signs You’ve Left The Matrix
Core Identity Becomes Stronger
You’ve always had the core identity inside you. It’s very simple, and that’s why it can sound dumb, judging from the capitalist’s standards. Usually it’s like “I wish I could paint all day” “I need to live in the forest”. “There needs to be a typewriter in my room” “I want to go back to playing music”. It doesn’t make sense to the social conditioning we’re in, because you don’t see how it generates value. It’s the things you say to yourself in the morning while having breakfast alone, in a quiet space. Or when you’re showering and having that relief moment, then suddenly swept by “reality” that you can’t just do that. It’s not reality, it’s the matrix that’s keeping you trapped and disconnected from your core identity. Your core identity is what you want to be when you’re not “(insert name)”, when you can erase all of your background of growing up in this family, when you have absolutely little worldly attachment left to who you are but you still really want to do THAT thing, and it’s unexplainable.
Your core identity comes through many lifetimes. You may have been a landlord to pigs, chicken and cows before and this lifetime you still want to be a landlord, but for humans. It’s not because you are lazy and rich (maybe that too), but you genuinely enjoy taking care of people in space. You may have a desire to teach and search for the highest truth and experience, not because it will give you recognition and escape from life but you may have been an important professor impacting many lives and changing the “truth” of the world before. Your soul always remembers your core identity. You do it with ease and simpleness.
To hear yourself is the most difficult, oftentimes, we do and then we judge ourselves “That’s just a funny dream”. Or the most classic one “I can’t afford that”. Other times we are busy with distraction The Matrix provided: Childhood trauma, drugs, sex, work, other people’s dreams. The Matrix is here to make you forget that your core identity isn’t yours, it’s unimportant and you need to “attain” external things to become your core identity. For example, I need to work 5 years and save up until I can buy a house in the forest. The matrix keeps us in linear thinking and least possibility thinking. When we embody our core identity, we step into our power as a master manifestor. If our core identity is already ours, there is nothing outside we have to attain. Only the inside that we must sustain and uphold our truth.
2. Stop asking others for affirmations
When you become immune to praise and affirmations, you become immune to judgement and criticism. The black and white can’t touch you.
We all are the culprit of affirmation, whether through salary, tickets you’ve sold to your event, praises, likes on social media, or the answer you’ve been looking for in a Tarot reading or a sign from the universe. Don’t call them validation. They’re external affirmations.
Validation makes us crave for more, hungry and feeling not enough. You are stuck in survival mode. Most people reading this book are beyond validation or are conscious enough of it. But affirmations are the trickster, they are in between survival and thriving mode. It creeps back when we’re feeling doubtful, unsure of our own and need reaffirming “The universe sent me a sign, this is it!” Even if you know you’ve got yourself, deep down you’re still reliant on the sense of certainess, sureness, and that’s also where ChatGPTand Google Maps comes in.
Here is an example:
You were in a dilemma whether to go ahead and give a speech or not because someone had asked you to but the audience attendance was low. You decided to go ahead anyways, not for the number of audiences available (external validation), but you did it because you wanted to share your knowledge. When you finished the workshop, people praised you and gave you amazing feedback. Deep down, you know you did it from your heart-intelligence, so you weren’t really “looking” for praises. However, you can't help but keep reading the feedback over and over to affirm that your choice of giving the speech because he had made an impact on people’s lives – the thing you crave more than quantity of audiences. The feedback reaffirmed that your ability to genuinely help people is real.
Despite the praises, you know you can help people, you’ve done it before. But this speech has reaffirmed your belief about your capability. Because despite not needing validation to feel like you’re enough, you need affirmations to make you feel sure.
Another example would be my own. I used to not write because I thought “Who’s gonna read my writing? I have no audience ", “I’m not earning money anyways” This is a classic Matrix dream killer of needing external validation that what I’m doing is valuable. When I moved passed the external validation concern into my affirmation phase: My reason for not starting to write shifted. I began feeling doubtful of how I’m going to post, publish and even sustain my writing because I had no accountable buddy. I was writing to a ghost, I thought. There were no affirmations like I had in my creative writing 101 class in college. We had writing buddies editing my grammar, commenting on my piece, and giving me suggestions. Those friends were great affirmations and I depended on their feedback to keep going. I didn’t feel offended when they told me my piece was shit, but because of them, I felt certain to write.
This is a real-life example of almost everything. In your early teens to early 20s, you’re longing for validation. In mid 20s to late 30s, you're looking for affirmations. By your 40s, you don’t give a shit enough and start doing what you truly want. By late 40, you officially left the matrix. Some would never follow this timeline.
When we are the reality of affirmations, we are in the reality of thoughts, feelings and emotions. We want to feel certain, we want to think we’ve made an impact.
While the reality of validation is the reality of “what we DO, to get approval”, the reality of affirmation is “what we FEEL” , to keep going. Feeling is an addiction, that’s why relationships can become the biggest attachment. It stimulates feelings. We are addicted to feeling sad, happy, joy, irritated as it becomes our identity. As we evolve, our goal is to move from feeling irritated to feeling good. However, feeling good can also be a trap if you are constantly searching for the feeling of “goodness” in everything. That is Affirmations.
How you use affirmation depends whether you stay in the matrix or recreate it to your will. Affirmations is a tool we constantly use to create or perpetuate reality. Whether it’s negative or positive affirmations, we give the affirmations attention / energy to manifest the reality that we want. That is how we use affirmations to leave the matrix. If you keep asking others to affirm your reality then you allow them the power to affirm your identity, You are creating a reality where others actions are more important than your own. You are allowing their truth to become your truth. The truth is no one actually knows what’s going on in your reality except you.
Once you are immune to other’s thoughts, feelings, emotions and action, you are becoming the real master creator.
3. Life starts to get real mother fucking slow.
Once you “heal”, they say you’re more lazy and less motivated.
The truth is, your relationship with ambition shifts. You no longer need external validation, or the amount of money you thought you once needed to feel secure. Because you know money isn’t security. You don’t want to feel important to society anymore so network and volunteer in groups less. Getting that degree to feel like you’ve finished something big feels unnecessary. You don’t want to hangout with a bunch of random people, because your time is precious. Your desire dwindles into bullet points of intentions. You become sensitive to people you surround yourself with because you know that not everyone is made for you.
You’re choosing your real self: the self that’s not “brought up” by this society. When we cut all distractions out, we’re left with a sharper vision. The path becomes clear, and time slows down because you can finally fucking relax.
Suddenly, you just want to spend more time at home, maybe with your family or just your dog and cat. The job you thought was once cool in The Matrix is no longer that cool. Sitting next to the beach is cooler. The grinding life to prove your corporate title is getting boring, your nervous system is in frenzy mode and you’re exhausted at the end of the day you didn’t even have time to call your mom. You start to question is this really the life I’m heading towards? What is this all for? You forget day to night, night to day, and if you’re a woman, you hate it when you’re on period because it means you gotta slow down. That was the matrix life, they want to work you like a little machine, successful if you forget your real worth without work.
We live in a society that equates generating with self worth. If you’re sitting, singing to the trees all day, you’re considered delusional and a hippie. They put you in a mental hospital because you’re not PRODUCING. Guess what, that’s what all humans did before! We’ve never produced this much since our human existence. Life has never been so fast, we’re expecting robot pace from a human body. If you’re not earning or producing, you’re basically in the lower caste of society. This is an illusion they have created to put you in the matrix. “They” meaning the people who do not benefit when you choose to leave the productivity lifestyle.
Your goals shifts: it can be regaining your calmness back or prioritizing nutritionist meals instead of finishing a computer task, or finding more joy in solitude than drinking every weekend with friends.
People think this comes with age, but it doesn’t.
It comes with acknowledging self, and having courage to step into your truth. This is one of the most difficult stages in life because it is a huge identity break. It can even break from your initial mission i.e You wanted to be the best investment banker. You realize you have to let go a lot in your old identities to get to this stage, the friend groups, the sin-ful activities, the laws you abide in your culture, or the ones you’ve never abide.
But you know what, this is the most rewarding stage because you begin to bend time. Yes, time-bending is a skill acquired once your life slows down. Once you’re no longer stuck in The Matrix’s demanding pace, you begin to create your own pace, your own life and your own reality. The things that used to trigger and stimulate you (including your parents or kids’ whining, they’re the same really) no longer does. Your nervous system slows down and you hear yourself better. Reconnection with self is strongest at this stage, and you realize time listens to your nervous system’s rhythm.
4. Your interests become “invaluable” to society.
You’ll start picking up things that are so boring and you can’t even imagine how you’ll make money with this “hobby”. But first, let’s recognize that it’s not a hobby, it’s a calling. Every hobby is a calling in disguise whether it materializes, sticks with you or not. I used to take up film photography for a few years, passionately drowned myself in it. It didn’t make me any money, I didn’t become a photographer. About seven years later, I realized I was exploring ways to document life on earth. I can create beauty out of emptiness, and my interest is actually documenting, journaling, reporting and channeling. Photography was a medium.
Lots of things you pick up will look invaluable, your brain can’t imagine what you’re going to do with it. It can be as simple as living by the ocean. It seems invaluable as hell, unlike the conventional norms where you get big jobs and titles and you move to New York or Tokyo. The sooner you accept it that your desires doesn’t make any valuable sense to society, the faster you’ll have peace in living your authentic life and exiting the Matrix.
The Matrix is a big social conditioning box, wiring our brains to think a like. To put the same jobs on a pedestal. You’ll end up following the market, not yourself. Following yourself is exactly what they don’t want you to do. It disrupts the matrix. If everybody left, then there’s no matrix anymore.
People are scared of leaving the matrix because it means they have to leave what society deem as valuable: the x amount of money you need in your bank account, the definition of success, your expensive hard earned college degrees, your friends who were in survival frequency their whole life. It’s natural for humans to be afraid of the unknown. Who’s gonna be with them on the other side of the matrix? Will their friends be as good as now? What about their well-being?
It takes audacity for a person to leave familiarity, even if they know it was a trap. And this is why people go back even if they had a glimpse of leaving the matrix and tasted real freedom. COVID19 was a time where the collective had a taste of it. It was chaos, and those who weren’t spiritually developed didn’t have a strong core to deal with a shift of social conditionings.
COVID was a great example of people who are stuck in social conditioning can become depressed when experienced a Matrix shift, while those who are conscious of the Matrix took it as an opportunity to rediscover themselves.
When you get to this stage, be prepared to be judged. It’s not going to be easy because your values are up-side down in the society’s standard. Imagine during COVID, a person is fearless and goes off on vacation. That’s how you’re going to start to operate: against all the values they try to control you. Judgement is what keeps a person stagnant in society. Once you don’t care about being a rebel, useless, worthless, incompetent, or any negative labels they can put on you: You are living outside the matrix.
